Self-confidence can be tough to build especially when you are losing everything that matters to you in your life. According to an estimation made, 85% of people worldwide struggle with poor self-esteem and this affects their personal and professional life.
Whether you are giving a speech in front of everyone or flirting with your crush you have a psychological bias towards your own mind because you know yourself better than you know anyone else.
But here is an incredible fact that few people don’t consider. Every face in the crowd has a life as complicated and emotional as yours. This concept is called the theory of mind and it is one of the fundamental things of human socialization but, a vast amount of individuals understands this theory of mind on a complex level.
Importance Of Self-Confidence
Self-confidence plays a vital role in every stage of life, but most of the people struggle to develop it and this becomes a vicious cycle. People who lack self-confidence are less likely to achieve success compared to those who have self-confidence.
People with confidence inspire other people around them, they inspire their bosses, their audiences, their co-workers, their family, and among the other people of society.
On the other hand, people with low self-esteem can feel weak, submissive, afraid of failures, and lack respect in society. You may also develop depression & anxiety and eventually get habituated to unhealthy habits such as drinking & smoking.
Causes For Low Self-Esteem
There are many causes for low self-esteem which vary from person to person. Few are listed below
- Adolescence
Adolescence is one of the critical stages for growing teens. They can develop low self-esteem due to internal & external factors such as lack of parental guidance and support, physical and mental abuse, hormonal changes, that make them often feel fragile.
- Past Experiences:
For few people, past experiences haunt them to not being able to live their present life to the fullest. They feel unworthy of the bad decisions they have made in their past life.
- Body Image
Personality also plays an important role in building your self-esteem. Some people are worried about how they look and moreover compare themselves to the actors in magazines, TV shows, and movies and feel unattractive about their appearance.
So, these are a few causes for low self-esteem. Self-confidence is a wonderful skill that can be developed by practicing a few tips and mind set techniques. Follow the below given tips and see nothing and, no one can stop you from being a confident person (well except you of course!)
Best Ways To Boost Self-Confidence
Low self-confidence can affect your present and future. If you are one of them struggling to overcome low self-confidence then these steps can help you.
- Look At Things You Have Achieved
Confidence is a product of achievement. When you accomplish a goal or overcome an obstacle, the sense of achievement creates personal pride and self-esteem. So, whenever you feel less confident look back at things you have achieved in your life.
Whether it’s winning a medal in an Inter-School competition or a top rank in the examination, you are lauded for your achievements. If you could achieve them you can do lot more things in life.
- Maintain Good Bonding With Your Inner Self
You are never going to feel confident unless you maintain positive self-talk. Treat yourself like you are your own best friend, value yourself just like your favorite celebrity.
Lift up your soul when the times you feel low, value your own self needs and desires, doing these develops great self-respect and self-confidence.
- Kill Negative Thoughts
A wise man once said, “Your greatest enemy is your own self”. This is true; in order to achieve something great in your life, you need to defeat your negative thoughts.
Whenever you knuckle down on something you will hear whispers from your inner self that says “This is too hard for me”. Well, these whispers are common for everyone and you need to overcome them in order to achieve success.
Try doing things even if you feel like you will fail, when you succeed you will be passionate to take on challenges.
- Know Yourself
In order to know yourself, you need to study more about yourself. Start writing your own thoughts in a book about how you feel when you encounter some typical situations and what you have done to overcome them.
This will help to make an analysis of your perspective of looking at things and help you in the areas you need to improve your confidence.
- Normalize Saying No
People with lower self-esteem often feel challenged to say no to the things they do not like. They feel concerned about how the opposite person receives it.
But, the risk is that you will feel submissive to the people’s words and eventually develop a dependent behaviour. Normalizing saying no to the things you feel like not doing will not just develop self-confidence but also keeps you away from overthinking.
- Face Fears With Ease:
Fear stems self-confidence. If are to ask your crush for a date or apply for a promotion head-on and ask them confidently. If you are afraid or think you will mess up try it anyway when you succeed you will feel confident about yourself. Or being anxious isn’t as bad as you had thought.
- Accept Rejections:
Even the greatest people you are reading every day in various articles and magazines have faced rejections. Rejections do not end your life rather they make your life, they show you the areas you need to focus on. So, accept rejections as a motivation and take your next step ahead with confidence, you may not become an overnight star but, they will show you the way to become one.
- Break A Sweat With Exercise
Science has proved that having physical exercise reduces stress, increases endorphins production, tones your muscles, and makes you feel confident and happy from the inside. Doing jogging around the block for 30 minutes or, boogie in the living room can benefit you in improving your self-esteem.
- Come Out Of Your Comfort Zone
Confidence begins when you are at the edge of your comfort zone. Stretch yourself and move out from your comfort zone. Take care of the responsibilities, try doing something new, travel the world, bond along with new people, keep good knowledge on things, and never be with a give up attitude. These will not just make you a nomadic person but also give you the guts to face anything in life with confidence.
- Emulate Confident Allies
Whom you bond with impacts your thoughts, habits, and confidence levels. If you bond along with positive thinking people you will incorporate their habits and thinking style. Always choose people wisely to whom you give space in your life. Eliminate people with negative attitude and have a good harmony with positive thinking people because they guide & support you and lift your confidence levels rather than laughing and mocking you.
Final thoughts:
These are a few tips that can work but sometimes, some of the quick fixes cannot help in the long term you will need an expert help. Our Teletherapy in Minneapolis are equipped with a team of psychological experts who can provide a permanent solution for low self-esteem with the help of Cognitive-behavioural psychotherapy.
Let us work together and fix the problem, contact us today @612-886-6112 for online therapy.